Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Repost--> TJ Perry: Erik Lindstrom


TJ Perry
Feature Story
December 10th, 2012
Writing & Reporting News

ERIK LINDSTROM
“My grandfather was more than a survivor,” Erika recounts with a smile. “He was inspiration to myself and everyone who knew him. He never, ever gave up.”
Erik Lindstrom of Woodland, California ended his eight-year battle with lung cancer last year at the ripe age of 79 after spending his last years doing things he loved with the family he loved even more.
“The thing was that I never once heard (Grandpa Erik) complain about the pain,” his 20-year-old granddaughter Erika lovingly recalls.  “Through the chemo, the medication, everything, he was always smiling, making sure we all had our lives in order.
Erik was the oldest of six children living in a sleepy suburb tucked into a corner of northern California’s bay area in the early 1930’s.  From an early age, as Erika is told by her relatives, Erik was obsessed with happiness and optimism.  He had a special knack for sensing any form of sadness in his friends and family and always strove to be the one to lift their spirits.
As a student, Erik was a standout athlete with excellent grades through his high school years.  He lettered in football, basketball and track & field, earning district conference honors in all three sports.  Erik had dreams of pursuing a collegiate and eventual professional athletic career, but he chose to find work to pick up the slack left by the early death of his father.
“Growing up, all I heard about Grandpa were jokes about how he should still try out for the (Golden State) Warriors,” Erika exhales while shooting an imaginary basketball. “He kept himself in such great shape that I’m sure they would’ve called him back. The fact that Grandpa gave that up to provide for his family speaks volumes of his character.”
As one of the eldest in the household, Erik worked as many as four jobs at a time to help put his siblings through Catholic school and enough food in the fridge for supper.  His family not only relied on him for all the household handiwork, given his experience as a plumber’s apprentice and knowledge of carpentry, but it was also his job to shuttle his siblings wherever they needed to go.
At an age where his peers were worrying about buying a house and starting a family, Erik was only concerned about his own.
“Grandpa stayed in the house until his late twenties when his youngest sister had graduated from high school.  His family definitely could have managed without him but he took such pride and joy in being there for them that he didn’t want to leave,” Erika says with a tone of admiration.
Erik Lindstrom finally settled down at the age of 30 with a woman whom he had known from his high school days named Barbara.  They moved into a beautiful two-story house just minutes from the one he had grown up in so as to be close to his family.  The two of them wasted no time starting a family of their own, having their first child, Peter, just ten months later.
Over the years Erik and Barbara raised the next generation of Lindstroms while Erik started up his own local plumbing business.  They lived a modest life, valuing their love for one another much more than material possessions.
Given his athletic history, Erik did his best to keep himself in shape as well as he could with regular diet and exercise.  The rest of the Lindstrom family was shocked at the diagnosis of lung cancer he received at age 69, but Erik didn’t change at all despite being told he had less than a year left.
“Grandpa was actually smiling when he told me about his cancer,” Erika remembers. “I was horrified, depressed, a million things… But seeing him as happy as ever gave me a lot of comfort. If he was okay, then I was okay.”
The Lindstrom family prepared for the worst as the end of Erik’s predicted deadline approached.  They spent every minute with him doing whatever he wanted to do, whether that meant going to 49er’s games, visits to the shooting range, or even skydiving.
As that year came to an end, Erik found out he was in remission.
“I can’t describe to you how happy we all were. He was the picture of health and looked like he could live another 70 years,” Erika says, recalling what were supposed to be his final days. “More than anything, we learned how to appreciate every day we could spend with him.”
The next nine years were full of ups and downs as Erik’s health hit many peaks and many valleys before he passed peacefully in his sleep in November of 2011.  The one thing that never faltered was his enjoyment of life.
“No matter what, Grandpa always had a strong face on for us no matter how sick he might have been. The best mind reader in the world wouldn’t have been able to tell he knew he was close to the end. Grandpa loved our family and never let us forget that,” Erika says.

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